Having connections is so important. I don’t mean just all the people in your life. Because while you may be connected to them having connections is another level.

I do a one on one mentorship program with someone. His name is Brian. Through Brian I am now connected to a group and we meet virtually every two weeks. This group offers us a safe place to share, be vulnerable and talk about things that we observe about ourselves, others, along with our struggles.

It is a unique dynamic. And it is really amazing to be able to create relationships and feel a connection with people you haven’t met in person. On our last call, the importance of have this kind of support became even more apparent for me for a few reasons.

First, I tend to be somewhat private or secretive (so my dad tells me) but it’s not because I’m hiding anything. It really comes down to the fact that I don’t feel like sharing plans if my intuition tells me the idea will not be understood or poo poohed. I also don’t see the need in asking for directions from people who don’t know how to get where I want to go. I suppose this doesn’t necessarily mean I have to keep so quiet but in the end I don’t feel like many spaces are open enough for me to speak or share freely, so I don’t.

The second reason is that I often find myself in a position of listening and/or giving advice or guidance to others. So when I am constantly giving I have sometimes found myself a bit alone because there’s not always someone there for me.

Knowing who your support team or group or friend is super important. It’s important to be able to talk, vent, or work through ideas and it’s also equally beneficial to have someone who can listen without judgement but also offer different points of view or ideas that add value to you. Overall this leads to not only better relationships but also personal growth as you give and receive with others.

Depth of friendship does not depend on length of acquaintance

~ Rabindranath Taqore